Friday, December 23, 2016

Sometimes life gets in our way.  We spend countless days planning, organizing, changing plans, looking for shortcuts for our plans, reorganizing all that we semi-organized just a few days prior and then we start all over again.  In the end....really what have we accomplished?  Nothing that will last.  Nothing that furthers the Kingdom.  Nothing that shares the Good News of Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior.  All of our efforts are well intentioned but when we actually stop and contemplate what we have done with our days, we fall short of glorifying the One and Only true God.

I have spent many countless hours this past year thinking and rethinking how things in my life "could" have gone differently.  Guess what?  That changed nothing.  I cannot relive a moment of that time.  It is simply wasted on selfish pity and unnecessary suffering.  What I really needed to do was to lay it all down and trust that my Heavenly Father had and has a plan for each moment.  Of course I have to live my daily life but I can live it far more fully in Him.  I have my every need met by the God of the Universe.  When I step in and shift my focus....trouble for me ensues.  At 61 years of age I am beginning to believe that truth.

I am not one for New Year's resolutions.  For one reason, I can uphold them for about 3 hours.  But my real reason for choosing not to tie myself to them is that I know that left to my own devices, failure is my only hope.  Short of trusting God to provide strength to follow through on my meek attempts I am at best luke warm at the finish.  I never want to discount all that has been done for me and I want to give the glory to God for those blessings.  I want to spend my days lifting His name in praise.  I want to let go of the challenges that hold me back and see only His face.

When I was younger and my dad would tell me that as you grow older the days simply fly by.  I thought that was just senseless.  Surely the days remained 24 hours and the weeks 7 full days..etc.  Now I see what he meant.  My days are numbered by an Almighty God who truly yearns for me to stay fully connected to Him.  My prayer for this New Year is that I will look up and trust all that He has prepared for me in the coming days.   I want to share the love of my Savior with all who I meet and be a light in the darkness of this daily life.

It all comes down to this...we only go around once.

Sunday, November 6, 2016

Sometimes 12 years seems like a lifetime...

All my life I have knew that somewhere there was a child that would become mine that I did not have the privilege to carry and nurture from birth.  I had no idea how or when it would be a reality however.

Twelve years ago today my truth came to be when a friend and beautiful woman went home to be with the Lord.  She was fierce.  She was a fighter.  She was a warrior.  She loved with every single fiber of her being and her love was mighty for her children.  In her battle with breast cancer she never once complained or gave in to fear.  She just put one foot in front of the other and continued to fight for her life.

On November 6th, 2004, our family grew by 2 because I promised Sharon on the morning of October 31st that if she went home to see Jesus before I did that her girls would become my own in every sense of family.  She beat me to glory and I received the greatest gift a mother can give another....two amazing daughters to add to our family.  Since that day 12 years ago, our family of 4 has grown to a mere 17.  Emily, Dave, Asher, Lucy, Erik, Elisa, Jaklin, Shea, Anna, Kevin, Colton, Wesley, Sydney, Katharine and Joe.  Amazing story of God's grace on an undeserving friend who simply stood by her promise to a dear woman who loved deeply and honestly in all that she did.

On this day every year I stop and think about all that Sharon entrusted in my care.  I cry over all that I know she has missed and weep for all that is still to come in our lives that she can't enjoy with her daughters and grandchildren.  I am enjoying the fruits of her labor during her time here on this earth.  I get to hold those 3 little ones and tell them that I love them.  I am the one who reaps the joy of their arms around my neck and the "I love you more" when we say goodbye at the end of a visit.  Every time I hear those voices my mind never fails to go to my dear, dear friend and hope she knows just how much I loved her and how I will be faithful to my promise until I see her again with Jesus.

Some day soon I hope to get to tell those little ones just how much their grandmother loves them and how much I wish that she could be here to enjoy the joy that they bring.  I want them to know that I am doing all that I can to keep her memory alive for them and that if she were here.....oh how she would smile.

I love you Sharon Nicolaisen and miss your sweet smile still..every...single...day.

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Just Pondering...

This journey called life is exactly that....a life long trek through the dredges that is our existence.  Not a sprint...not a jog...not even a swift power walk...just simply one foot in front of the other day after day.  During the times when things are seemingly easy we sail along mindlessly from moment to moment.  When a challenge arises...the rubber really meets the road so to speak.

Sometimes I get weary in the struggles.  I lose my focus and begin to become lethargic in my faith.  Not a moment goes by that I doubt that God exists but many come around that I legitimately question Him.  Again...not His love,  not His trustworthiness, not even His best for me.  But rather my love for Him, my trustworthiness and my lack of obedience.  He is truly the only strength that I need when I falter.  Why is it so difficult for me to rest there?

The more we depend on Him the less we depend on ourselves.  I tell myself that over and over in a days time.  Yet I selfishly go on about my desire to "fix" things on my own.  My ways must be better than anyone else could possible know.  After all, I know my heart.  I know my needs.  I know what is best for me in the moment.  Lies from Satan.  Untruths that do not coincide with what Scripture tells me to be so.  That is why Matthew 6:24 tells me "No one can serve two masters.  Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.  You cannot serve both God and Money."  The choice is mine.  To believe that He alone can be my Master or to let the world dictate my path.

I alone must choose to lay down my rights every single day and pick up my cross and follow the One and Only Savior of my life.  He is Almighty God!  He is the Master of the seas.  He is the Omnipotent One who loves and cares for me.  Simply stated....He is love.  When I look at those words and just rest there....I am once again whole.  Once again at peace.  Once again at one with my Creator and the true author and finisher of my faith.


Tuesday, July 19, 2016

In life there are ups and downs.  Every day we are constantly faced with the daunting task of making choices that ultimately can change the course of our lives.  Sometimes we choose wisely and other times our decisions cause us to struggle where we never expected.  Mistakes are made but just the pure definition of that is doing something that we didn't mean to do or hurting someone we didn't want to hurt with our actions.  

As we walk through life, however, there are instances where trust becomes so important in our relationships.  In marriage, in friendship, in medicine, in machinery....I can go on and on, but the point is that we have to rely on others and other things to survive.  It is when those people or things let us down that we begin to understand suffering.  When the chemo starts to lose it's power.  When the battery in our car wains.  When our spouse just doesn't seem to understand what we are trying to say.  When our friends fail to hold us up when our strength is faltering.  These are the realities.  This is true life. 

 No one is absolute but Jesus.  We have to rely only on Him.  Everything else is just fluff.  Not truth.  Not trustworthy.  Not secure.  Only Jesus.  I tell myself this over and over in a weeks time.  Daily I look to Him to be my strength and almost always I fail to believe that He is all I need.   I know that He is constant.  His love is never failing.  Yet I place my hope in people that continue to destroy my hope and cause me to stumble in my faith.  

It is a challenge daily for me to keep my eyes fixed on Him.  I want so much to believe that there is a reason for my journey through this struggle called Christianity.  The end of my journey will be worth the battle.  I do know that to be fact, but the suffering of being disappointed in so much is sometimes just heavy and disheartening.  The Church is to be a reflection of Christ.  I fail to see Christ in so much we attach to His name.  I am disappointed in so much that we as the Body of Christ speak on His behalf.  I do not believe that Jesus would ever judge like we judge and He has the ultimate right to do just that.  He loves instead.  

Jesus never told anyone to come back to Him and serve Him when they were right in their own eyes, or in the eyes of others.  He simply said, "Go and sin no more."  Sounds simple...we are the ones who have chosen to put conditions on forgiveness and moving forward in our walks.


It all comes down to this....Forgiveness is absolute in Christ.  No debt remains.  When will we get true understanding of that fact.  It is finished!

Thursday, May 12, 2016

Psalm 119:28  "My soul is weary with sorrow; strengthen me according to Your Word."

Over and over in the scriptures we are given truths about what we should do with our fears, anxieties, sorrows, worries, challenges, doubts.....  Laying them down and trusting in the One we have put our faith and trust in, Almighty God, comes so easily for me.  I love the amazing feeling of unburdening myself at the foot of the cross.  Pouring out all of my cares and begging God to relieve me of them and the struggles they cause in my walk.  Opening up and weeping over the sin in my life and knowing He is faithful to hear and answer my prayers.  Sometimes (most often) not exactly in my timing or in my chosen way, but always I believe according to His best and His will.

But...many days I feel like I am on a treadmill of sorts walking the same five feet over and over again.  All of my own choosing.  Even though I have made my prayerful and earnest requests known to my Lord and Savior who has promised me His constant and abiding love, fear and worry begin to creep back in.  Philippians 4:16 tells me "Do not be anxious about anything but in every situation by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God".  I know He cares.  I know He hears.  I believe in His promises.  But I fear the day's unfolding events.  They are completely out of my control.  I worry about the unknown.  I play the outcomes over and over in my mind until it just becomes too much for me to bear and I find myself back at the foot of the cross looking for comfort and understanding.  Matthew 6:34 - "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow,  for tomorrow will worry about itself.  Each day has enough trouble of its own".  One day at a time.

1 Peter 5:10 promises me that "..the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will Himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast".  Not in my time frame or on my time table.  In my humanness I want comfortable.  I want a life of happiness and contentment.  The real problem is that I find myself accepting the happiness that the world extends and begin to believe that will fill my emptiness and help with my struggles.  In reality I need joy and that can only come from walk with my Lord.  He has to be enough in the good times but also in the dark times of struggle.  His abiding love is the only true healing salve for our wounds of unhappiness, grief, hurt, discontent, suffering....

I will cling to that truth and look to Him for my strength in times of trials in my daily walk because 1 Peter 5:7 tells me to "Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you".  I am so thankful that He cares about my needs but also my desires.  No judgement - just His grace.  I want to lay everything down, believe in His truths and trust His best for me in every challenge that comes my way.

So I choose to step off my treadmill of unbelief and doubt and choose to embrace His Word for what it is- the Truth and rest there in His peace and comfort.

It all comes down to this..."Restore to me the joy of thy salvation and grant me a willing spirit to sustain me."  Psalm 51:12

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

When I Struggle to See The Light.....

      The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love.  He will not always accuse, nor will he harbor his anger forever; he does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities.  For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.   Psalm 103:8-12

It is abundantly clear to me that our sins are removed from our Savior's mind yet they continue to rear their ugly heads and cause us to stumble.  How is it that if Almighty God himself can cast them as far as the east is from the west and choose to never revisit them that we believe it is our responsibility to keep them present?  Is it our pride that won't allow us to believe that forgiveness is complete?  Or is it just the lack of faith that pushes us back into the darkness of unbelief and despair?

 Sin hinders our relationship with our Savior.  Not just because we fail to repent, but rather that we choose to remain captive to the power it holds over our hearts.  When we go to God with our sin He is faithful always to forgive it.  There is nothing more He wants for and from us than a restored relationship with Him.  The love He has for us is ever present...never diminished and never faltering.  It is complete and full.  Our love for Him however can often dwindle because of our struggle to see Him in difficulties.  

Therein lies the issue of the body taking care of itself.  When we are struggling with a certain area in our walk, God will send comfort and strength in ways we never expect.  Sometimes that comes in the form of just sitting alone with Him and meditating on His truths.  Other times it may come from a brother or sister in the Body who He sends to minister to us.  Either way, God is at the heart of it all or it is useless.  He knows us individually and personally and only He can supply our need.  His way.  

It is easy to become heavy hearted and burdened for those we love who are struggling.  Often it becomes too much for our hearts to bear and we also begin to struggle along with them.  This doesn't need to be our default.  I admit....it can be mine.  But if I believe that "The Lord is compassionate and gracious, slow to anger, abounding in love", then I need to believe it fully and without hesitation. 

 1John 1:5 says "This is the message we have heard from Him and declare to you:  God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all."  I have to keep my eyes on Jesus and His light will guide my path just where I need to go even in my despair.  He is faithful to the end.  My struggles need to be released to Him and allow Him to make all things new.   His ways are perfect, His timing perfect, His forgiveness perfect, His love perfect and never ending.  Praise God!


It all comes down to this..."Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death. "  Romans 8:1-2     I am free indeed! 

Monday, February 15, 2016

"God never gives us more than we can bear."

...And then a mother loses her young child unexpectedly and tragically.  A soldier goes off to protect and serve his country leaving behind a wife and young children.  He never returns.  An illness rocks the health of a mom who is the sole provider for her children and they lose their home and ultimately their chance at being together.  A couple yearns for a child and spend years hoping and praying for the miracle of birth to be a part of their lives together but are brokenhearted over and over again.

God never gives us more than we can bear.

A husband watches daily as his wife and the mother of his children slips away because cancer has racked her broken body.  Parents bury their only child.  A teenager suddenly chooses to end his seemingly otherwise perfect life leaving everyone who knew and loved him gasping for air not knowing how they will survive their loss.

God never gives us more than we can bear.

And then everything we believed to be true suddenly seems so false and just empty words.

There are days when the struggles we find ourselves in steals our joy and takes away our ability to just breathe.  It isn't because God doesn't care or isn't listening to our cries for help.  He hears us.  He alone can carry our burdens when we buckle under the load of pain and fear.  Matthew 11:28 says "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."

You see - God does give us more than we can bear.  Every single day.  Every single hour of every single day.  Every single minute and second of every single day someone in this broken world is asked to bear more than possible.  But 1Corinthians 10:13 promises that "No temptation has seized you except what is common for people.  But God is faithful.  He won't allow you to be tempted beyond your abilities.  Instead, with the temptation, God will also supply a way out so that you will be able to endure it."  We are never alone in our sufferings or struggles.

God alone is the solution for all that  is wrong in our daily lives.  We are on a journey that will ultimately bring us closer to knowing just How Great Is Our God.  He feels the pain and suffering of every mother's broken heart, every husband's aching and empty life left behind, all the empty arms of grieving parents left childless.  Every challenge we face in this sinful and broken world will all be made whole one day.  I stand firm on that promise.

Mark 9 tells the story of a father who sought Jesus out because his son had spent his young life possessed by an unclean spirit.  In his desperation he asked Jesus for compassion and help for his son if it was possible.  Verse 23 says "And Jesus said to him, "If you can!  All things are possible for one who believes."  Immediately the father of the child cried out and said "I believe; help my unbelief!"

This is probably where many of us are as we face the trials in our lives, some small and others seemingly insurmountable.  I am choosing to seek His face and ask Him to strengthen and help my unbelief.

Psalm 147:3  He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.